I’ve always wanted to be a good dad to my two sons. I wanted them to be able to accomplish whatever they were made to do. At the same time, they needed to respect us and other adults – a difficult task in today’s culture.
I’ve coached both my boys’ hockey teams for ten years now. I’ve coached a number of boys over my time who came from not-so-great home situations. A few seasons ago, one guy in particular struggled with anger all year. We had had a conversations over the season about behavior and what I expected. He’d test me a bit, I’d lose my cool and maybe sit him for a while, but we always had fun.
After the hockey season I heard that he had disappeared; leaving his home and was living “on the street” apparently. It upset me because I new he was struggling and I didn’t want to see him give up.
Well, at the end of the year we had a team party and who showed up? The guy I had the most trouble with! He came up to me and told me that he wanted to come see me.
What an awesome feeling. I shook his hand and told him I was glad he came – it was a great night for all of us.
It was that that point that I knew I had a knack for connecting with young men.
At the time, I worked as a manager in our local provincial government. I had received training on dealing with difficult people, effective communication, and many leadership courses. But it was when I received my coaching certification and everything just clicked.
I no longer had the need to have all the answers because a coach’s job is to help others arrive at the answers that suit their situation the best.
Since then, I’ve been forming my plan to launch a coaching practice and it is now a reality!